The role of the family in forming children

 1- Psychologists confirm that the family is almost the only tool that works to shape the child during his first life, studies have shown that the child needs to grow in the confinement of a stable family, and his need for brothers to grow with him and share his family life with him, so the mother embraces the child  In the cradle stage, from which he derives his sense of security, and through the father the child can satisfy many of his needs and desires, and also obtain sympathy, appreciation and love from him.

2- The two most important elements that balanced relationships should dominate in the family are the husband and wife. In a balanced family, each of the parents is aware and aware of the psychological and emotional needs of the child associated with his development, and among the most important of these needs is the child’s need to feel safe and secure, and the need for appreciation, love and self-confidence,  The need to belong, to build social relationships, the need for compassion, education and direction.

 3- The father is aware of the desires and motives that may be behind his child’s behavior that the child is unable to express clearly.

  4- The child is not a scene on which one of the parents shows his unlawful desires, such as being used to harm and harm the other party, or maliciously for him, or for his child to be the focus of conflict between him and other adults who come into contact with the child.

5 – The child feels compassion, safety and stability .. which removes anxiety and turmoil, opens the way for him to correct psychological adjustment, and enables him to develop his abilities and potentials, to be a successful and useful person.

   The most important things parents should not do are:

  1- Bullying: It is the father or mother imposing his opinion on the child .. This trend often helps to form a shy and always afraid personality.

   2- Excessive protection: It is represented in the performance by one of the parents, or both of them, on behalf of the child, of the duties or responsibilities that he can perform, and interference in all his affairs, so the child does not have the opportunity to make a decision for himself even in choosing his clothes and friends.

3- Negligence: It can be seen in two forms: a careless one, and another that is a lack of reward for the desirable behavior .. The result is a hesitant and anxious personality in her behavior, a loose person who is not disciplined in any work.

   4- Pampering: It is to encourage the child to fulfill most of his desires in the way he likes and not direct him to assume any responsibility commensurate with the stage of growth he is going through.

  5- Cruelty: It is represented in the use of corporal punishment methods of “beating”, and the threat of it, and the result is an aggressive character.

  6- Discrimination: in the sense of inequality between all children, and the result is a selfish, malevolent personality that is accustomed to taking without giving … She loves to possess everything for herself.